Gentle planning guide
One step, then the next
Two quiet questions, then only the steps that matter for your family, in the order they usually happen. Take breaks when you need to. Your place is kept on this device.
When you have answered both questions, your steps will appear here. There is no hurry.
The first steps are always the same
- Take a breath. There is time.
- Call us at any hour on +234 800 000 0126.
- Ask one person to be with you.
A word, gently
There is no right way to feel
Some people cry, some feel numb, some find themselves busy with tasks. Some feel relief after a long illness, then guilt for the relief. All of this is normal.
Eat and drink something
Even a little. Grief is tiring, and the coming days may be long.
Let people help
When someone asks what they can do, give them one task: food, phone calls, collecting relatives from the motor park.
Children need words
Use simple, true words. Our journal has a short guide on talking to children about death.
Around you
People who may help in the first days
- Your pastor, priest or imamTo set the time of the service or janazah prayer
- Family heads and eldersFor decisions on rites, place of burial and announcements
- The doctor or hospitalFor the medical certificate of cause of death
- A trusted friendTo keep a list of who has called and who has given
- HearthstoneFor everything else, at any hour, +234 800 000 0126
Questions
Questions about the guide
Is my answer stored anywhere?
Only on this device, so you can come back to your place. Nothing is sent to us. Clear it any time with the start again button.
Can I share the steps with family?
Yes, use print for family, or save the printed page as a file and send it.
What if our family uses more than one tradition?
Choose more than one, or not sure. The guide will show the shared steps and we will help you work out the rest together.
Would you rather talk it through?
Some people prefer a voice to a list. Call us and we will go through the steps with you, slowly.
Example details for this demo.